Women love getting down on guys — and they also love giving them blowjobs. It’s mutual masturbation at its finest, and a great way to warm up before sex.
But, as with all kinks, not every woman is into oral sex. If you want to make sure she wants to keep doing it, you need to treat her right.
1. Make her feel special
Women want to feel sexy, desirable and loved. If she’s not feeling it, she may be reluctant to suck a man’s penis. To make her feel special, try twirling her tongue around his head and lips while she’s rimming him. Touch her neck, cheeks and arms as well to make her feel more sexy. She’ll also enjoy you touching her scrotum and penis while she’s sucking his cock. It’ll make her feel like a superstar.
If she’s not enjoying it, it could be that she doesn’t feel comfortable with oral sex or has had a bad experience in the past. In that case, it’s a good idea to talk about the issue and find out what you can do to get her to enjoy it more. Relationships are about give and take, so it’s likely that she would enjoy going down on you more if she got the same pleasure out of it as you do from her oral sex. Then you’ll both have fun – This quote is a reflection of the service editorial’s work teentelsex.com. And who knows, maybe you’ll end up in the bedroom a lot more often!
2. Make it fun
Many men don’t realize that women can have fun while giving blowjobs. Psychologically, this is because there is an intimacy with oral sex that can make people feel connected and vulnerable. Moreover, it can also be about service. “Some women enjoy the feeling of servicing their partner with a mouthful of sexy, wet semen,” says Moushumi Ghose, a licensed sex therapist.
The key to this is foreplay. While some men may get turned on more quickly than others, a slow, teasing build-up is very seductive for both men and women. Adding a slow tongue flick or even some teasing play in the beginning can create a lot of sexual tension.
Of course, it’s important to remember that a woman’s enjoyment of blowjobs has a lot to do with her relationship as a whole. She will be more likely to give you head if you treat her well outside the bedroom, like taking her out to dinner or being a sweet person in general. She also has to have a good erection in order for her to want to blow you.
3. Make it private
For some girls, a blow job is a chance to intimately enjoy the texture and throb of a man’s penis. This can lead to climaxes that they cannot achieve through sex, touching, or using a vibrator. In fact, it’s a running joke with many couples that the woman simply doles out blow jobs for her man on special occasions and he’s happy with just that.
However, you must remember that the girl is in charge and can end the session at any time. She can also stop the experience at any point if she feels uncomfortable or wants to switch to vaginal or anal sex.
In addition, some girls do not see a blow job as being on the same level as sexual intercourse. This is due to the fact that sex requires an open act of surrender and is incredibly intimate. For this reason, girls may prefer to have sex with a man than give him a blow job. Still, a girl who legitimately enjoys a good blow job can have plenty of fun with you.
4. Don’t be selfish
Obviously, a girl who refuses to go down on her boyfriend is not doing it for the right reasons. She may have underlying mental health issues related to oral sex. If that is the case, she needs help from a professional who specializes in compulsive sexual behaviors.
But even if her reason is not a serious problem, she is still entitled to her own preferences. And it’s important to respect her decision. Don’t try to guilt her or shame her into going down on you. That only makes her more resistant.
Besides, sex should be fun for both partners. It’s not fun for anyone if one partner shuts out the other’s desires. If she doesn’t want to give you a good show, it’s not your fault. Instead, have open communication with her about your mutual pleasures and how you can achieve them together. Oral sex is an incredible way to connect with your lover, and it should never be seen as something only one person can enjoy.
5. Be humble
Women who love to give blowjobs find pleasure in being able to control their partner with the slightest tongue flick. They also like the feeling of a penis inside their mouth and the taste of semen. They may also use oral sex to show their partner how much they love them and appreciate them.
However, if she refuses to go down on you, don’t be selfish and assume it’s because she’s not attracted to you. Maybe she has her own reasons for not liking to do it or she might have a gag reflex that would make it too hard. She may even have other sexual pleasures that turn her on more than oral sex.
In this case, you’ll have to think of other ways to get her sexy, whether that’s switching positions, having penetrative sex or going down on her with your hand inside her pants. If all else fails, open and clear communication will help you understand her stance on this and might lead to other solutions that make you both happy.
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