A full body orgasm feels like a slow, steady build up of pressure and tension before reaching an orgasmic peak. It’s not something that comes naturally to everyone.
But it’s a pleasure that can be reached through a variety of stimulation, in partnered sex or masturbation. The secret is in preparation and the use of a good lubricant.
Breathing
Breathing is so important, particularly when it comes to reaching a full body orgasm. Taking deep breaths, even as the sensation is building up, will help to keep you from going into a panicked state and will allow your energy to flow freely throughout the body.
Many people are tempted to hold their breath as they get closer and closer to climax, but that’s actually counterproductive. According to tantric sex educator Barbara Carrellas, this type of behavior causes the energy in your pelvic area to build up rather than circulate.
To help you stay relaxed, try breathing slowly and deeply with your eyes closed. Also, some women report that making guttural sounds such as panting is what gets them to a full-body orgasm. This is an important part of the tantric approach, which involves focusing on arousal beyond just the genitals and channeling energy to all parts of the body.
Another way to amplify the experience is by adding in emotional touch – This quote is provided by the portal’s editor sexy-belle.com. When you can connect with your partner emotionally, you’re triggering an increase in oxytocin, which makes the feelings of pleasure more intense.
Loosen Up
Full body orgasms feel like a slow, steady build of tension and a crescendo that leaves your entire body pulsating. But you’re probably not going to get one if you aren’t relaxed. That’s why it’s so important to loosen up before you engage in sexual activity — whether that’s partnered or solo.
That means breathing deeply and relaxing all the muscles in your pelvis, abdomen, and shoulders. You can even take a little stretch to help release some of that tension. This will help the energy flow through your body more freely and encourage that fabled orgasm.
It also helps to focus on ecstasy rather than just pleasure. That way, you don’t just end up with a regular orgasm (which is great in its own right). And it can be helpful to time your sexual adventures around your hormone cycle, so that your hormone levels are at their most sexy — and you don’t have to work as hard to reach orgasm heights. That’s what some of the experts call the tantric approach. It’s all about bringing in and spreading sexual energy through both primary and secondary erogenous zones, such as the nipples and neck.
Breathe Deeply
For a full body orgasm, it’s important to breathe deeply, says sex and tantric sexuality expert Barbara Carrellas. This helps to boost oxytocin and encourages the flow of sexual energy. It also helps to relax the muscles in the pelvic region, which is where most orgasms occur.
Many people hold their breath or breathe in a shallow, panting way when they’re about to climax, but that kind of breathing is limiting. Instead, try to take deep breaths and let them rise slowly, letting your energy build up. It may feel uncomfortable at first, but the more you do it, the more you’ll find that your energy flows with a greater intensity.
Making noise, whether moaning softly or growling, is another great way to move your energy. In Tantric sex, it’s thought that using higher-pitched sounds draws your sexual energy up toward your head, while lower pitches send it down to your genitals. It’s a good idea to communicate with your partner, too, so that you can use your voices together in ways that are pleasurable and stimulating.
Slow Down
While you’re working up to a full body orgasm, it’s important that you and your partner take things slow. You can do this by taking your time to caress each other and experiment with different touch patterns.
For example, it may feel really good to rub and kiss your partner’s neck, ears, or collarbone, which can all be pleasure triggers for some people. You can also massage their feet and hands, or rub each other’s shoulders.
Another way to slow things down is to breathe deeply, says Carrellas. When you’re on the brink of a orgasm, it’s natural to hold your breath as you feel your pleasure intensifying, but she recommends consciously exhaling and inhaling as you get ready for the big one.
She also suggests combining different types of stimulation, like stimulating the clitoris, nipples, and the g-spot or prostate (all of which are anecdotally known to bring on a more satisfying orgasm), or even using vibrators or toys. And she adds that making guttural sounds like “oh” and “ah” can help. Lastly, she suggests timing your orgasms around ovulation when your hormone levels are at their highest to optimize the pleasure.
Focus
The tantric approach to orgasms (that’s the practice that Sean Diddy Combs does) focuses on spreading sexual energy from the primary erogenous zone—penis and balls—throughout the body, to stimulate secondary and tertiary areas, like the clit and g-spot. But it’s not easy to get there, and you need to be relaxed.
Getting to that place of relaxation and openness takes time, so set aside an hour or two to explore. Remove distractions, like phones and pets, and make sure the temperature and lighting are right for you. It can help to wear a mask or cover your eyes and have music playing at a comfortable volume.
Stimulate the pelvic floor muscles (Kegels) while focusing on breathing deeply and slowly. Then, massage the backs of your legs and arms. Caress your partner’s shoulders and head, dig your fingers into their backs during penetration, and even stroke their nipples (it triggers the same pleasure network in the brain as clitoral stimulation). And, of course, give them a good rubdown. Guttural sounds—like oh and ah—have also been anecdotally linked to full-body orgasms, Deysach says.
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