Women can enjoy clitoral orgasms without penetration. Many women find that masturbating alone while stroking their clit gives them tremendous pleasure.
The clitoris is an organ that’s shaped like a wishbone and has legs (called the labia) that travel along your pubic bone. Try stroking and applying pressure to this area in different rhythms.
Stimulate the Clitos
With 8,000 nerve endings in such a tiny organ, the clitoris is the seat of female pleasure. Unfortunately, many partners don’t stimulate this part of the vulva enough during intercourse. Whether it’s you or your partner doing the stimulating, it is important to start out slowly and gently and figure out what feels good and what doesn’t. It’s also a good idea to have plenty of lube on hand, as the clitoral area is much more sensitive when engorged with lubrication.
During sex, you can explore the clitoral zone by touching, stroking, and licking it with your fingertips or a sex toy. You can also play with pressure — light or firm, circular or broad, and up or down. It may take some trial and error to find the right touch, but it’s well worth the effort.
You might not be able to see the tip of the clitoral gland at first, as it is covered by a flap of skin called the clitoral hood. Once you’re aroused, though, this hood will retract to reveal the clitoral gland, which will then be erect and highly sensitive.
Despite how intense the clitoral orgasm can feel, it doesn’t always lead to sex, and some people don’t have a clitoral orgasm at all. If this is the case for you, it’s important to communicate with your partner about what makes you happy and to try exploring other erogenous zones (such as the neck and lips) to reach orgasm.
Play With Pressure
The clitoral hood is sensitive and can be stimulated with finger pressure, a sex toy, or the heel of your hand. Using different amounts of pressure and changing it up during masturbation can make it more pleasurable for you or your partner to reach your clitoral orgasm.
You can also try moving the hood up and down, side to side, and pulsing it. This type of stimulation is often enough to trigger a clitoral orgasm for some people.
Then, once you feel aroused, you can try stroking it gently with your hands or a sex toy. Some women prefer stroking with their fingers, while others like a fingernail, a penis, or a wand toy. It’s important to communicate with your partner about what types of pressure and movement they enjoy to find the right kind of stimulation that brings them into orgasm.
Another way to play with a clitoral orgasm is by stimulating the g-spot. This is the spot on the front of your vulva that is usually thought to trigger vaginal orgasms, but it actually has a lot to do with clitoral orgasms, too. Try putting your fingers in a peace sign with lots of lube, and then sliding them around the hood of the clitoral hood, or rubbing it up and down with increased pressure as you move up into your clit.
Edging the Clitos
Whether you’re solo or with a partner, the process of edging can be exhilarating. But you also have to be aware of the limits. Too much stroking can push you over the edge and cause pain or discomfort, while too little will keep you stuck in your early refractory period (the time it takes to get back to the orgasm peak again).
One way to find that sweet spot is to schedule breaks. Every ten or twenty minutes, stop stimulating and take deep breaths to slow down. This will make it easier to return to the fun once you’re ready to go again.
Another option is to use a vibrator to increase clitoral stimulation. You can adjust the angle, level of penetration and vibration speeds to find out what works for you. Some even give biofeedback to show you what’s happening inside your body as you play with your clit.
If you’re not a big fan of penetrative sex, you can still enjoy edging the clitoral ridge with toys like a dildo or cock. Or you can simply use your hands to gently stroke the entire vulva, concentrating on the clitoral ridge as you do it. This will likely help you reach a clitoral orgasm eventually, though it may take longer than if you just used the clitoral ridge itself.
Take Your Time
Whether you’re using your fingers, hands, or a toy, be patient and gentle. It may take a while to find the right rhythm that triggers an orgasm. And once you do, be careful not to overdo it!
The clitoral hood is very sensitive and can overheat easily. So be sure to take frequent breaks and use the pause (the part of the orgasm where you relax your breath and let go of stimulation) as an opportunity to reset yourself.
Once you feel a clitoral orgasm building, experiment with changing up the rhythm. Speed up or slow down, change from a single rhythm to a circular pattern, or try switching between external and internal stimulation.
It’s also important to note that the clitoral hood is not the only part of the clitoris to have pleasure potential. The full clitoral structure is actually shaped more like a wishbone, with the glans at the top and two internal “legs” that reach downward around your labia and vaginal opening.
So if you’re having trouble finding pleasure with the clitoral hood, don’t worry! There are many ways to get a clitoral orgasm and it’s all about finding what works best for you. And remember, if something feels uncomfortable or painful, it’s okay to stop and try something different. Just always keep a firm hand on the brakes and be mindful of your partner’s feelings, too.
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