An erotic massage is a tantalizing way to explore the sensual side of your partner. It can rekindle intimacy and reignite the spark in relationships.
However, there are a few things you need to know before trying an erotic massage. Follow these tips for a more successful experience. You’ll both leave feeling arouse and satisfied.
1. Have a good conversation.
A good massage is all about having a conversation and understanding what your spouse is looking for. You’ll probably want to discuss your partner’s erogenous zones (the areas that can prompt orgasm), and it may be helpful to have an open-minded discussion about their boundaries and comfort level in terms of touching.
You should also consider how the environment can set the mood. The space should be serene and comfortable, with dimmed lights and soothing music that can help them relax and enjoy the experience. Ideally, you should use aromatherapy and light incense to create a pleasant scent that’s soothing for your spouse’s senses.
You can’t go into an erotic massage without hitting the most obvious erogenous zones, but it’s also important to take your time and gently explore other parts of the body. For example, you can massage the wrists and arch of the foot, the fingers and palms, the ears, and the backs of the knees—all places that are often neglected and that can make for a little surprise that feels good and shows your partner how well you know them.
2. Set the mood.
For starters, you’ll want to make sure your surroundings are perfect. Turn down the lights, light a few candles and get your favorite massage oil out.
As the massage progresses, you should gently lead your partner towards their erogenous zones—but don’t go overboard. Start with the back, then move onto the shoulders, chest, arms and hands. Then work your way down to the inner thighs and knees. Eventually, you should reach the feet—but don’t push too hard, because you may have already turned their climax on.
If you’re a bit nervous about making the transition, communicate with your partner to see what feels most arousing to them. You can even ask them if they’d like you to use other body parts, such as lips and tongues, to intensify the experience.
Remember, this isn’t just a massage, it’s foreplay leading up to some sort of happy ending—and if it turns out to be nothing at all, at least you have some great memories together. So enjoy! And let them know how much you love them.
3. Ask for consent.
In the wake of the #MeToo movement, sexual misconduct and assault has not only affected high-profile figures in the media and politics, it’s also occurred in spaces such as massage parlors. As a result, many people are wary of getting a sensual massage or even going to a regular massage salon.
However, there are a number of things you can do to create a safer space for yourself during your massage. First, be sure to talk about your feelings with your masseuse and ensure that they know what you’re comfortable with. Additionally, be sure to check in with them throughout the session and make any necessary adjustments.
Lastly, it’s important to remember that you are never required to consent to anything you don’t feel safe with. Ultimately, your masseuse is there to serve you and help you achieve your desired outcome. So, don’t put her in an uncomfortable position by pressuring or threatening her. If she feels unsafe, she’ll likely refuse to continue the massage or may end it at any time. This can be very dangerous for both of you and will make the experience a lot less pleasant.
4. Make it a private affair.
During an erotic massage, it is important to make sure the setting is private. This can be done by locking the door or by communicating with other people in the house that you will need some privacy. You should also turn off the phone and any other distractions so that your partner can fully relax.
It is also important to start the massage slowly and move towards erogenous zones gradually. This way, your partner can build up sexual arousal and feel more prepared to receive your clitoral stimulation. It is best to begin with the neck, shoulders, arms, and hands. These areas are generally erogenous, but can be a bit uncomfortable for the first few touches.
It is also a good idea to try using different parts of the body for the massage, such as the lips or the backs of the knees. This will be a very unique experience for your partner and will surely get them turned on. Try varying the pressure as well and listen to their responses – a happy moan indicates that you are achieving the desired effect, while a grunt or pain may indicate that you need to reduce the pressure.
5. Make it sensual.
Unlike regular massages that aim to soothe, an erotic massage should be sexually stimulating. It should arouse your partner in a variety of ways, from back-arching toe-curling orgasms. These tips can help you give a seductive massage that will make your partner melt into a puddle of passionate mush while screaming her name.
First, set the mood. The best way to do that is by using sensual music. Instead of cranked up metal or cheesy elevator music, use soft rhythmic beats to help your partner relax and enjoy the massage.
Start with the obvious erogenous zones, such as the wrists and feet, and then move towards the less-obvious areas. For example, you can massage the arch of her foot, the fingers and palms, or even her ears.
If you want to add extra arousal, consider adding a vibrator. However, be careful with this tip and only use a vibrator that is specifically designed for massage play or else you risk causing irritation to the delicate vaginal skin. Also, be sure to communicate with your partner throughout the massage to find out what feels arousing.
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