Men who have had prostate orgasms often say they are the most intense pleasure they’ve ever felt. They can be triggered by touching, stroking, or massaging the gland with a penis or anal toy.
Some even describe feeling a flow of milky, ejaculated fluid (or “p-spot milking”). Using a well-lubricated finger and changing up the pressure and speed can feel great.
1. The first time
If you’re a guy who’s never had a prostate orgasm, the first time is bound to be a bit weird. It might also hurt, especially if you’re just starting out. This is why it’s best to start off slow and with a lot of lube.
The prostate, or p-spot, is a small gland in the middle of the genital region that can produce mind-blowing orgasms when massaged. The p-spot is filled with nerve endings and is highly sensitive to touch and pressure. This is why prostate play (sometimes called “prostate milking”) feels so good.
Prostate orgasms are reported to feel similar to penile orgasms but more intense and felt throughout the entire body. Some people even ejaculate during these orgasms, though this isn’t common for everyone (1).
To stimulate the prostate, you can enter through the anus or through the perineum (the swath of skin that runs from the scrotum to the anus) which is sometimes referred to as the taint. Start by putting a lot of lube on your fingers and introducing one finger into the anus. Play around with different techniques, speeds and pressures to figure out what feels best to you.
Some people prefer to only stimulate the anus with the index finger, while others like to insert multiple fingers into their anus and go in for a full-body prostate massage. Whatever your preference, make sure to communicate with your partner to understand their needs and boundaries.
2. The second time
Prostate orgasms are a hotly debated topic, but most penis-havers who have had them say that they’re even more intense and satisfying than a regular penile orgasm. Getting there can take some work, though. It’s important to have patience and to try different techniques until you find what works best for you.
For starters, make sure you have plenty of lube on hand and to apply it regularly throughout the process. Next, try applying pressure with your fingers or using a prostate toy to stimulate the gland. You can also experiment with different positions, and it’s a good idea to communicate with your partner or solo-mistress before starting to encourage them to relax and focus on pleasure.
Once you’re feeling ready, apply lube around the anus and insert one of your fingers (many people start with the pinky). Feel along the taint – the swath of skin between the balls and b-hole – to find the round lump that’s located a few inches from your anal opening. This area is also known as the “male g spot” or “p-spot.”
Then, use your finger to press on the gland in a “come hither” motion or in a doorbell manner, and gradually increase your speed. Many people like to use toys that let them control the pressure and depth, as well.
3. The third time
In order to experience a prostate orgasm, you need to be well-aroused and have strong pelvic floor muscles. Performing daily Kegel exercises is a good way to strengthen your pelvic floor. It may also help to have your partner stimulate other erogenous areas of the body before going into the anal area, so that you have a full-body experience to get you excited for this new sensation.
Once you’re ready, apply some lube to the anus and insert a clean finger (many people like to start with their pinkies) into the anal canal about one inch. Massage gently, using the pad of your finger against your prostate in a circular and back-and-forth motion. Keep doing this for about 10 seconds, then stop and move on to another spot of stimulation.
This is often called prostate play or prostate massage, and can be done alone or with a partner. Many men who engage in prostate stimulation report a sexual pleasure that’s different from the sensation of a regular penile orgasm. It can be more intense, felt all over the body, and last longer. Some men even experience “p-spot” orgasms, a thin dribble of milky fluid that leaks from the anal opening.
There are many reasons to try prostate stimulation, whether it’s for sexual or therapeutic purposes. Aside from the intense pleasure, this kind of stimulation can improve urinary function and decrease the symptoms of prostate disease. It can also deepen the intimacy of couples during foreplay and sex, and it can be enjoyed by both heterosexual and homosexual men.
4. The fourth time
Men who have had prostate orgasms say it’s one of the most intense experiences they’ve ever had. They’re triggered by direct stimulation of the gland, usually with a finger or sex toy, and can occur both internally and externally. The sensation is incredibly pleasurable, but it can be hard to describe to non-experiencers. During prostate orgasms, it’s possible for a man to dribble a watery ejaculate similar to semen—a sensation called “prostate milking.”
While actual clinical research on prostate orgasms is scarce, it’s likely that anyone with a healthy prostate can experience them. But it may take a bit of time to locate the gland, learn how to stimulate it, and figure out what speeds and pressures feel best for you. And of course, you’ll need lube to make it all work!
Prostate play can be a great way to add variety to your sexual pleasure, but it’s also important to communicate with your partner and prioritize self-care. If you’re feeling uncomfortable, try changing positions or using different lubricants. You can also try incorporating prostate massage into foreplay or trying different anal sex toys. With a little patience and experimentation, you’ll be on your way to experiencing this new type of pleasure! But remember: it’s always okay to call it quits if you’re not comfortable or having fun.
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