Squirting is like the Loch Ness monster of female sexuality—it’s a thing that some people swear happens to them, but most don’t know much about it. Squirting is a gush or trickle of milky fluid that exits the urethral sponge, or CUV (clitourethrovaginal) complex, during sexual stimulation.
It can happen as a result of vaginal or clitoral stimulation or from oral at the beginning of penetration.
What is it?
There hasn’t been a ton of research on female squirting, but what there is suggests that it’s very different from male ejaculation. For starters, a lot of women who squirt say their orgasm-associated liquid looks, smells, and feels nothing like pee, and it certainly doesn’t feel the same as plopping down on the toilet for a poop. The difference lies in where the squirting fluid comes from. While ejaculation is a wet substance secreted by the walls of the vagina during orgasm, squirting is more likely to be the result of lubrication (think natural lube, sexy lube, and artificial lube), which can get mixed up with squirting.
The squirting orgasm-associated fluid is usually clear, colorless, and odorless, and it sometimes comes out gushingly in large quantities. It may contain urine and prostatic-specific antigen (PSA), which is a protein produced by the prostate gland, but it’s not really clear if it’s just those two things or something else entirely.
But while there’s not a lot of research on it, many sexual health experts agree that most women are capable of squirting and that it typically coincides with orgasm. Winston, for example, believes that everyone with a vulva is capable of squirting if they get enough stimulation and learn to engage their pelvic floor in the right way. She suggests that masturbation and solo play can help women figure out what they need to make it happen.
How do I squirt?
The first thing to note about squirting is that it’s different for everyone. It can feel like a gush or a drip, and it’s not always the same amount of fluid. Squirting isn’t necessarily a sign that you’re close to orgasm either. It can happen before orgasm, during orgasm, or even without an orgasm.
You can also squirt with or without penetration, although the best positions for squirting usually involve it. If you’re looking for ways to get to squirting faster, try masturbating before you and your partner have sex, which can strengthen the pleasure pathways in your brain. A little bit of practice can help you to find the right positions for squirting, too.
Another great way to learn how to squirt is by experimenting with solo play. “When women focus on feeling pleasure and exploring their internal vaginal tissue, it makes it easier to ejaculate,” says licensed sex therapist Moushumi Ghose, LMFT. Plus, “squirting can be a heightened sexual experience that can also make a woman more confident and trusting of herself and her pelvic floor.”
One of the most important things to keep in mind is that squirting takes time. It may take anywhere from a few seconds to 20 minutes, or more. And it’s not something that can be forced or rushed, which is why so many people misunderstand how to squirt.
Does it make an orgasm more dramatic?
It’s not true that squirting makes an orgasm more dramatic, but it can be a great pleasure for many people. It also adds another layer of sexual exploration to the experience, which can be thrilling for some women. Whether or not squirting happens, it’s important to focus on getting more aroused and having better orgasms, and let it be a side benefit if it does happen.
One thing to keep in mind about squirting is that it can feel a lot like peeing. This is because the liquid that comes out of a squirt is a mixture of urine, sperm, and prostatic-specific antigen (PSA), which is the same stuff men secrete when they ejaculate. This can make squirting feel very similar to peeing, but the difference is that the liquid comes out of the vulva instead of the urethra.
A squirt can feel very different depending on the person’s anatomy and how it’s stimulated. It can range from a tiny stream to a massive waterfall, and some people don’t squirt at all. It’s important to try out all kinds of stimulation, including fingering techniques, and to communicate with a partner about what feels good to them.
Despite the cultural silencing and shaming of female sexuality, it’s time to celebrate a fact that we all share: our bodies are spectacular and can be used in a variety of ways for immense pleasure. Squirting orgasms may be a bit of a myth in the movies and embellished pornography, but it’s real for most people. It just takes some practice and a willingness to be vulnerable.
Is it a fetish?
A squirting orgasm may be a fetish, but it’s not necessarily the same as male ejaculation or a regular orgasm. As a matter of fact, it isn’t even clear whether the liquid released during squirting is urine.2
The squirting liquid is clear and odorless and is often gushing out in a dramatic fashion, causing some women to become very aroused and excited when they experience it. In addition, it’s also been reported that squirting can be triggered by vaginal stimulation, clitoral stimulation, and anal stimulation.3
While some women squirt regularly, others don’t. Likewise, if you’re only able to squirt occasionally or not at all, that’s totally fine! Don’t try to force yourself into having a squirting orgasm and don’t pressure your partner to squirt either.
It may take a while to figure out what type of sexual stimulation triggers your squirting orgasm, but it’s important that you keep trying because it can be incredibly pleasurable. Just remember that squirting isn’t a guaranteed sign of good sex or a strong orgasm and that it doesn’t reflect on you or your partner if you don’t squirt at all. The important thing is that you and your partner enjoy the sex you have together. And if you’re lucky enough to be a squirter, remember to marvel at how much fun it is to watch your squirt fly across the room!
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